Prime Minister’s Endorsement
I have been trying to figure out how to get our new Mayor to proclaim Abbotsford Parental Alienation aware. It seems like such a reasonable request, one struggles to understand why any city would refuse to declare itself aware of children’s needs. On the face of it, there is no money or even time involved. And all societies are headed there anyway. President Clinton, and later President Bush, both endorsed Parental Alienation Awareness. President Obama is fighting fatherlessness. I never did find any Canadian Prime Minister who ever endorsed PA awareness. And as you will see when you look at the next link, it is precisely lost time and money that worries Abbotsford politicians. When I read this I finally realized what his Honourable Worship Mayor Peary was trying to tell me when he said he could not issue a proclamation.
If our city did issue proclamations, one of the steps along the way would be to get an endorsement from our school board. Now the school board makes proclamations and prognostications almost daily, sometimes about things that are important to children, but carry little political weight. Surely, our school board could endorse a campaign to make our city safer for children? But as we have seen some politicians interpret child safety concerns to have broader political implications. And in the greater
community powerful forces want to make money by ignoring children’s health. If our School Board did make an endorsement, it might look like this.
Just by starting to take a look at who it is in Abbotsford who says we cannot be aware and we cannot stop promoting parental conflict in divorce, we automatically weaken their position and expose them to ours.
I have talked around the subject through photos and stories, but below is a short, clear, official definition of Parental Alienation from The PAAO website. You can become a member here.
Parental alienation, sometimes called Hostile Aggressive Parenting, is a behavior by a parent, or an adult a child trusts, such as a grandmother/father, aunt, uncle, etc., whether conscious or unconscious, that could create alienation in the relationship between a child and a parent.
Parental alienation, or Hostile Aggressive Parenting, can be mild and temporary or extreme and ongoing. Most researchers believe that any alienation of a child against a parent is harmful to the child’s emotional and mental health. Extreme, obsessive, and ongoing Parental Alienation can cause terrible psychological damage to children extending well into adulthood.
Click here to read letters from adult children of alienation.
Parental Alienation vs. Parental Alienation Syndrome
Parental Alienation focuses on the parents behavior as opposed to the alienated children’s conditions, which is termed Parental Alienation Syndrome. Richard Gardner defined Parental Alienation Syndrome as “a disturbance in which children are preoccupied with deprecation and criticism of a parent – denigration that is unjustified and/or exaggerated.”
Parental Alienation is damaging to children, whether or not they reject a parent. It’s important to recognize and stop the harmful behaviors of the adults before any ‘symptoms’ develop in the child, and before the behavior escalates to Parental Abduction or Parental Homocide.