Santa Comes To Town In 1964 Fire Truck
Our annual Christmas tree lighting celebration was Sunday, Nov 25th and we shut down one block in Abbotsford to hold a party from one till three o’clock. A stage was setup and kids from local dance and music studios did their thing, with lots of proud parents and grandparents clapping and cheering them on. The Salvation Army had their kettle out for donations and gave out hot chocolate and cookies to everyone. Save-On-Foods sponsored a tent for a charity called Hunger Response International which was teaching everyone about how to change world hunger and International Family Day May 15th, just a month before Bubbles of Love Day. Hunger Response says they chose May 15 to coincide with Mother’s Day. In Canada and United States Mother’s Day will be Sunday, May 12, 2013, which is close enough to make the connection.
In the undeveloped world, non-government agencies say they have been struggling because when they give money to men, they buy more whiskey and when they give money to women, they feed their whole community. In the developed world, non-government agencies say they have been struggling because when they try to start a men’s center to get men reconnected with their children, men don’t show up. Around the world men are called deadbeats and pigs.
None of this explains men, who don’t smoke or drink and were both employed and parenting their children, and wanted to continue to be parents, but were not allowed to when their children got to Middle school. The fact that so many men can parent babies and young children seems to fly in the face of accusations by NGO’s that all men are useless. It also seems to bring into grave doubt, the argument by Canada’s family court judges that they cannot do anything about the epidemic of fatherless Middle school students. There is a huge disconnect between what Middle school children say about hating their fathers and the obvious warm attachment to dad these children still have after 12 years of living at Mom’s house AND Dad’s house. If there was bonding between 3-7 years, then there still is bonding, but they’re confused, and trapped. You can still reach them. They’re conflicted, and not acting rationally, but the love is not gone. Stay calm and never give up.
It’s Meet The Teacher Night in Abbotsford
It’s our first parent-teacher conference of this school year, and in fact two years, if you count last year’s teachers’ strike. Divorced fathers are often used to being excluded from these get-togethers, and from almost every other aspect of school life as well. Schools say they are neutral in divorce, but children never get to be neutral. If there is conflict, kids struggle to be loyal to both, suffering in the middle, while schools turn a blind eye, usually claiming more comfort with female parents.
I was recently introduced to Pintrest. That’s where I found the photo to the right. There is a poem attached to an apple for parent-teacher night that reads: “An apple for the teacher is really nothing new, except when you remember parents are teachers too.” Apparently, parents just love them!
“One of the most important things you can do for your child is to go to parent-teacher meetings,” said Annie Kidder, executive director of the Ontario parent group, People for Education. Annie says it’s about more than just marks and recommends also asking how your child is doing socially.
Canada AM has some tips for making the most of parent-teacher night.
“When teachers and parents work together with mutual respect and caring, children achieve more at school and are happier to be there.” ~ BCCPAC
The British Columbia Confederation of Parent Advisory Councils says:
Parent-teacher interviews are a valuable tool to help you and your child’s teacher(s) work together for your child’s school success. This is a wonderful opportunity for parents to ask questions and gather information that will help you encourage your children to achieve.
Effective and regular two-way communication between home and school through parent-teacher interviews, report cards, agenda books, telephone calls, Individual Education Plan (IEP) conferences, team meetings, and parent involvement in the classroom and school all support this partnership.
BC Teachers’ Federation on Parent-Teacher Interviews
When parents and teachers communicate well with each other, children benefit and are more likely to have success at school. Although everyone has very busy schedules, the best way to really focus on your child’s progress is in a face-to-face meeting. The parent-teacher interviews provide this opportunity and are an important step in creating positive home and school communications.