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Canadian Divorce Reform: 1998 – 2003

Herbert Eser Gray, Queen’s Counsel

Former Deputy Prime Minister Dies At 82

Maple Leaf 20X20OTTAWA – From The Canadian Press

Herb Gray, a former deputy prime minister and one of Canada’s longest-serving parliamentarians, died Monday at the age of 82.

The federal Liberal party said Gray passed away peacefully at an Ottawa hospital.

“Beloved by all, Herb devoted a lifetime to his party and his country, in both good times and bad,” Liberal leader Justin Trudeau said in a statement.

“He has left behind an immense legacy unmatched by most in Canadian history.”

Prime Minister Stephen Harper extended his condolences to Gray’s family as news of his death spread.

“He was an honourable parliamentarian who served his country well,” Harper said on Twitter.

Gray’s career in federal politics spanned nearly four decades, starting in Opposition to John Diefenbaker and sweeping to victory with Jean Chretien’s third Liberal majority government in November 2000.

2003 Women’s Groups Raged Against Shared Parenting

Women’s Justice Network on Bill C-22, An Act to Amend the Divorce Act

Bill C-22: Where Now?
By Pamela Cross

When Bill C-22, An Act to Amend the Divorce Act, died in November 2003, a long chapter in NAWL’s work on reforms to custody and access legislation came to a close. We now find ourselves in a position to consider the broader question of women’s equality within family law generally. This issue of Jurisfemme, largely focused on the topic of family law, is the start of that work. This first article provides a brief update on Bill C-22.

Bill C-22 was many years in the making. The federal government began its most recent examination of custody and access law in 1997 with the establishment of the Special Joint Committee on Child Custody and Access, which released its report “For the Sake of the Children” in December 1998. (For more background information on this report and the history of activities undertaken by women’s rights organizations, visit the NAWL website at or the Ontario Women’s Justice Network website at

Since the release of the 1998 Report, the Federal, Provincial, Territorial Committee on Family Law, various Ministers of Justice, women’s equality-seeking and anti-violence organizations and other Canadians, including “fathers’ rights” groups, have all been actively involved in the legislative reform process.

Both before and after the introduction of Bill C-22 in December 2002, the following issues have been of particular concern to organizations working for women’s equality:

1) The language to be used to describe custody and access arrangements between parents

2) The best interests of the child test

3) Women’s access to justice

NAWL’s strong position with respect to each of the issues can be summarized as follows:

1) While there are difficulties with the existing language of custody and access, the proposed language of parenting orders, parental responsibility, parenting time and shared decision making will prove even more difficult. It will endanger women and children leaving abusive relationships, expose children in some situations to international kidnapping, confuse the existing child support guidelines and greatly increase litigation.

2) There needs to be a best interests of the child test with specific criteria, including past caregiving history, the presence of violence, the ongoing safety of the children and their primary caregiver, violence risk factors, race and ethnic origin and Aboriginal heritage.

3) Women must be assured access to justice through properly funded legal aid, independent, community-based services and mandatory training on violence against women and children for lawyers, judges and all family court personnel. Mediation must never be mandatory.

B.C. family laws face sweeping change

Bill that vows to protect children would also extend property rights to common-law couples

CBC Logo 20X20CBC News British Columbia – Nov 14, 2011

B.C.’s attorney general introduced a bill Monday that would create a new Family Law Act to replace the 1978 Family Relations Act, and better serve the interests of children.

Shirley Bond told the B.C. Legislature that the primary goal of the proposed act is to ensure the safety and well-being of children during and after the process of separation or divorce.

“The best interests of the child must be the only consideration,” Bond said.

Bill 16’s recommendations follow from a discussion paper and draft legislation issued in July 2010. The white paper suggested, among other things, toning down the language in the law by removing terms such as “custody.”

The bill tries to reduce conflict by steering couples away from courts and towards mediation.


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La fête des bulles d’amour – le 25 avril, 2014
Ensemble, nous sommes capables de beaucoup.
Il n’y a que 2 jours avant la journée de sensibilisation!

Bubbles Of Love Day – April 25, 2014
Together We Can Make A Difference
Only 2 days till Awareness Day!


Happy Holidays from Abbotsford

December 15, 2013 Leave a comment

It has been a busy year educating Canada about parental alienation. Thank you and happy holidays to so many wonderful people who encouraged me to keep writing and fighting for our children.

~ Kevin Pedersen

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Warm Holiday Advice From PAAO

Enjoy Your Children, Even Though December Increases Divorce Conflict

As usual, this year’s December holidays are still a period of intensified conflict between some separated or divorced parents, as they try to prevent holiday visits with the other parent. This is true child abuse in the regular, ordinary meaning of the words. And here in British Columbia, this type of abuse was discovered to be violence against children this year, in the British Columbia Supreme Court case of M.W.B. v A.R.B. [2013].

The wonderful folks at the Parental Alienation Awareness Organization (PAAO) have always said we should enjoy holidays with our children, if we get a chance to see them and not worry about the time or the day. One way to share Christmas is to spend noon on December 24th till noon on December 25th with one parent, and noon on December 25th till noon on December 26th with the other parent. One parent gets December 24th every even year, the other every odd year. But if you don’t have a court order like that, then you can always celebrate a couple weeks before or after your holiday.

And if your parenting time is interfered with…? First tell someone, so you are not alone. Try to find other adults to spend the day with. And use your memories of previous fun times you had with your children to enjoy them anyway. Sometimes alienators will restart parenting time after the holidays. Have a holiday party then to show kids how to adapt.

The Race Towards Equality

Canada’s Equal Shared Parenting Bill C-560 vs A Charter Challenge

I am happy to see Canada’s Private Member’s Equal Shared Parenting Bill C-560, but saddened that it is not the Prime Minister’s own bill. I am also saddened not one of Canada’s ten provincial Ministers of Justice, or three territorial Minister’s of Justice, or even Canada’s Federal Minister of Justice have upheld the Constitution of Canada or stood up against this abuse of children. This should be Canada’s Equal Shared Parenting Bill, since we all agree children need both fit parents, even more so after family breakdown.

As for my own Charter Challenge, it is relatively simple. A Mom in both British Columbia and New Brunswick were given many months to rehabilitate their parenting. The process of giving parents a chance to rehabilitate themselves has been reviewed by the Supreme Court of Canada, our National Court of last resort, and was approved in 1999.

Penguins: Devoted Fathers

Penguins: Devoted Fathers

Parenting is very hard work. But parenting is made harder for fathers who are never given the legal chance to rehabilitate themselves. Besides not providing equal protection under the law, the practice of never or rarely giving parents a chance to rehabilitate themselves, let alone to be able to legally parent equally is a violation of children’s right’s to life, liberty, and security of person and to know and be cared for by both fit parents. There has been 30 years of research proving that dual parenting helps children – even after separation. Every judge in Canada has been ignoring the clear, and convincing implications of New Brunswick v. G.(J.). [1999] for the last fifteen years – that it is a violation of Canada’s Constitution and of everyone’s rights, and especially children’s rights, to withhold a child from parenting time with a fit parent, merely for bureaucratic reasons. In G.(J.).’s case, the Court told her, she had not filled her paperwork out properly, refused her a lawyer, and withheld her parenting time from her children for an additional half a year, over nothing but paper work. The Supreme Court of Canada ruled G.(J.).’s case was a violation of Section 7 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms, which states everyone has the right to life, liberty, and the security of person, even children.

There are parallel fact patterns in any Canadian divorce where children are denied one parent’s equal parenting time while legal paperwork is being done, but no clear child safety issue is present. In any Canadian divorce where a father had been parenting half of each week for 20 years, and their children are growing strong, it would be hard to argue that any child safety issue existed or that the judge held any discretion that would allow their children to be ordered anything other than equal, shared parenting.

Canadian judges have been failing to uphold this law, which they are bound by, failing to be the Guardians of the Charter, and failing to be the Parents of our Nation as is their fiduciary duty towards our children. As Emmett Macfarlane said on Twitter on December 14, 2013:

If a law infringes the Constitution, a judge

should say so and strike it down. Simply

choosing to ignore the law is an impeachable


Canada’s Divorce Act Violates Our Canadian Constitution.

50/50 Equal, Shared Canada Child Tax Benefits

At first I was amazed to be one of the first father’s I know to be supported by Revenue Canada in attempting to collect ten year’s worth of back payments towards our children’s entire childhoods without Canada’s support at Dad’s house. Then I realized why.

Since the Canada Child Tax Benefit is income dependent, getting my former spouse to pay back half her tax credit and then sending a small portion on to me, will be a net gain for Revenue Canada. This is why they are so eager to make a ten year claim, because most Canadians owe taxes, and will not be collecting a ten year refund. On the bright side, Revenue Canada is the only agency that ever fought for our children’s interests besides me by myself.

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La fête des bulles d’amour – le 25 avril, 2014
Ensemble, nous sommes capables de beaucoup.
Il n’y a que 130 jours avant la journée de sensibilisation!

Bubbles Of Love Day – April 25, 2014
Together We Can Make A Difference
Only 130 days till Awareness Day!


L’édification de notre société de la connaissance

Le plus grand risque à nos enfants face dans le cadre de l’Internet se voit refuser l’accès. Nous avons des solutions pour tous les autres risques. – Parry Aftab, Esq.

Le 4 Avril, j’ai écrit un article intitulé Teach Your Children bien sur la Colombie-Britannique Plan de l’éducation et l’édification de notre société de la connaissance en Colombie-Britannique.

Je l’ai mentionné un peu de potins que 92% des Colombie-Britannique résidents avaient une connexion à Internet.

Je dis potins parce que j’ai perdu le lien vers l’article qui cite cette statistique.

Si quelqu’un a des statistics pour prouver que nous sommes follement connecté, s’il vous plaît envoyez le lien dans la boîte de commentaires.

Une remarque importante

Hier, j’ai appris que le gouvernement canadien vient de couper les vivres à nos bibliothèques régionales pour l’accès aux ordinateurs. À Abbotsford, et probablement dans la ville de Québec, et toutes les autres villes du Canada, des dizaines de milliers de dollars ont été coupés. Tous les ordinateurs et leurs connexions Internet à la construction d’Abbotsford service communautaire et, éventuellement, certains des bâtiments de la bibliothèque seront perdus dans dix jours!

Si vous perdez des ordinateurs ou des connexions Internet dans votre ville, s’il vous plaît faites le moi savoir dans les commentaires ci-dessous ou un poste statut sur Facebook, Twitter ou Google.

Quelle que soit la quantité exacte de connexion actuelle, nous sommes vraiment dans l’ère de la “Ça va prendre un village pour élever un enfant, et ce village doit s’étendre au-delà des éducateurs et des juges des tribunaux de la famille.”

Nous devons nous concentrer sur l’enfant tout entier, qui est pourquoi, je suis intrigué par le groupe nommé, les Pères et les familles. Ils ont écrit un article intitulé visite virtuelle = parentalité, le 18 Avril, 2012.

Les pères et les familles a été dégoûté par un article du Washington Times vantant les merveilles de médias sociaux comme une forme de parentalité pour les parents non gardiens. Cet article par Washington Times a été écrit sur Avril 15, 2012 et était intitulé Visitations virtuels sont une option raisonnable pour la garde des enfants.

Les pères et les familles avaient déjà publié des articles le 4 Novembre 2010 dégoûté de “parentalité virtuel” et encore une fois sur Mars 31, 2011 dégoûtés de “parentalité” avec Skype.

Juge à papa: “Visitation” via Skype est assez bon

Il est un célèbre film américain sur un bandit qui dit, ce que nous avons ici, c’est un manque de communication. C’est un euphémisme. Le bandit invincible il dit à son gardien de prison corrompu. Cela vient à l’esprit, quand j’entends ces suggestions graves par les juges qui parentectomies sont encore acceptables.

Apparemment, pas seulement les enfants pas besoin de voir leurs parents à prendre des décisions parentales quotidiennes pour apprendre ce qu’est un parent et comment être parents quand ils grandissent, mais les enfants n’ont même pas besoin de voir et de toucher effectivement leurs bienveillants, les parents responsables – dans le monde réel – pendant des mois, voire un an à la fois.

Dans les années 1930, au Canada, les médecins et les infirmières cru que les maladies d’asthme et d’autres ont été provoqués par des parents. Le remède? Un parentectomie!
Bien loin de ses parents, l’enfant a également été à l’écart des allergènes à la maison et l’asthme s’arrêterait. Mais ces enfants se souviennent un sentiment de confusion et dévastée par l’expérience à ce jour – 80 ans plus tard.

Hier, j’ai posté un lien vers la recherche du professeur Kruk, où il affirme que 70% des enfants veulent l’égalité, partage des responsabilités parentales (ESP), et que les enfants avec ESP ont les meilleures relations avec leur parents après le divorce. Il s’agit d’un très grand nombre – 30% des parents non désirées, je veux dire – et de laisser les choses en face, nous entendons pères indésirables, qui ont des enfants disant qu’ils ne veulent pas les voir, et ils ne veulent pas d’une relation avec leur père. Je ne veux pas minimiser le cauchemar des mères aliénées – l’aliénation, devient neutre – uniquement pour souligner que 85% des parents non gardiens sont de sexe masculin. Hier, j’ai écrit un article intitulé Oubliez les sexes, nous allons donc s’éloigner de l’argument des sexes et laissez-moi vous poser cette question: Voulez-vous faire partie des 30%? Pour moi, non.

Mais il est un très grand nombre! S’il ya 25 millions d’enfants du divorce aux Etats-Unis (15,5 millions de la rupture du mariage, et 9,5 millions de séparations), cela signifie que 7,5 millions d’enfants se sentent négativement assez sur le temps parental égal (ESP) de vouloir renoncer à un parent. Ce n’est pas normal. Nous avons besoin de changer ce numéro à travers l’éducation. Pensez-vous que ces millions d’enfants qui ne veulent pas voir leurs parents vont prendre le temps de leur journée bien remplie d’amis, les corvées, de soccer, et des devoirs de dire salut à un parent non désirés – tout leur sexe – sur leur ordinateur portable? Moi, non. Le genre est un hareng rouge qui empêche les parents de co-fonctionnement et en se concentrant sur leurs enfants.

Maintenant, aucune personne sérieuse estime que parler à un enfant pendant quelques minutes une nuit via Skype constitue parentale réelle. En effet, la poussée de la quasi-totalité des sciences sociales sur le thème de la parentalité après le divorce est vers une plus grande égalisation des temps et des responsabilités entre les deux parents. – Les Pères et les familles, ont affiché Mars 31, 2011 par Robert Franklin, Esq.

Ces “virtuels” parentales ordonnances du tribunal sont les interférences de visite par les juges. Interférences Visitation est la première étape vers l’aliénation parentale. Donc, vous dites bien, il ya quelques bons juges des tribunaux de la famille là-bas. OK, bien, si il ya, ils ont besoin pour se lever et arrêter ça. Une profession se régule et établit ses propres normes éthiques. Je l’ai dit avant que l’avocat qui sait comment guérir un enfant aliéné, mais refuse de le faire parce que cela pourrait signifier la fermeture du palais de justice, c’est comme un médecin qui sait comment guérir un enfant atteint de cancer, mais refuse de le faire parce qu’il pourrait signifier la fermeture de l’hôpital. Les arguments de ces malheureux juges sont l’injustice à bien des niveaux. En se concentrant sur la technologie enlève les juges de travail d’éducation doit être fait pour changer la culture de divorce loin des conflits et vers fondamentale la coopération. Je crois que c’était le Dr J. Michael Bone, qui dans un de ses commentaires a écrit, que l’aliénation parentale est toujours à la recherche pour “convertis”. Il est d’autant plus tragique lorsque ces nouveaux convertis sont dans des positions de pouvoir et de confiance.

Building our Knowledge-Based Society

The single greatest risk our children face in connection with the Internet is being denied access. We have solutions for every other risk. – Parry Aftab, Esq.

On April 4th, I wrote an article called Teach Your Children Well about the B.C. Education Plan and building our knowledge-based society in British Columbia. I mentioned a bit of gossip that 92% of B.C. residents had some connection to the internet. I say gossip because I lost the link to the article that quoted that statistic. If anyone has the stats handy to prove we are wildly connected, please drop the link into the comment box.

An important note

Yesterday I learned that the Canadian government has just cut funding to our Regional Libraries for computer access. In Abbotsford, and probably in Quebec City, and every other Canadian city, tens of thousands of dollars have been cut. All of the computers and their internet connections at the Abbotsford Community Service building and possibly some to the library buildings will be lost in ten days!

If you are losing computers or internet connections in your city, please let me know in the comment box below or as a status post on Facebook, Twitter, or Google.

Whatever the exact current connection rate, we are really in the era of “It’s going to take a village, and that village has to extend beyond educators and family court judges. We need to focus on the whole child, which is why, I am intrigued by the April 18th Fathers and Families article complaining about a Washington Times article touting the wonders of social media as a form of parenting for non-custodial parents. Fathers and Families had already posted articles on November 4th, 2010 outraged about “virtual parenting” and again on March 31, 2011 outraged about “parenting” via Skype.

Judge to Dad: ‘Visitation’ via Skype is Good Enough

Cool-hand Luke’s line, “what we have here is a failure to communicate,” comes to mind, when I hear these serious suggestions by judges that parentectomies are still acceptable. Apparently, not only do children NOT need to see their parents make daily parenting decisions to learn what a parent is and how to be parents when they grow up, but children don’t even need to see and actually touch their caring, responsible parents – in the real world – for months or even a year at a time. In the 1930’s, in Canada, doctors and nurses believed that asthma and other diseases were caused by parents. The cure? A parentectomy! If you took the child away from his or her parents for a year, the asthma would stop. And it did, because the child was removed from the allergen, not the parents. But these children remember feeling confused and devastated by the experience to this day – 80 years later. Yesterday, I posted a link to Professor Kruk’s research, where he states that 70% of children want equal, shared parenting (ESP), and that children with ESP have the best relationships with their parents post divorce. This is a huge number – the 30% of unwanted parents, I mean – and let’s face it, we mean unwanted fathers who currently have children saying they do not want to see them, and they do not want a relationship with their dad. I don’t mean to belittle the nightmare of alienated mothers – alienation, is becoming gender neutral – only to point out that 85% of non-custodial parents are male. Yesterday, I wrote an article called Forget Gender, so let’s step away from the gender argument and let me ask you this: Do you want to be part of the 30%? Me neither. But it is a huge number! If there are 25 million children of divorce in the United States (15.5 million from marriage breakdown, 9.5 million from commonlaw separations), that means 7.5 million children feel negatively enough about equal parenting time(ESP) to want to give up a parent. This is not normal. We need to change this number through education. Do you think that these millions of children who do not want to see their parents are going to take time out of their busy day of friends, paper route, soccer, and homework to turn on their laptop and say hi to an unwanted parent – whatever their gender? Me neither. Gender is a red herring that prevents parents from co-operating and focusing on their children.

Now, no serious person believes that talking to a child for a few minutes a night via Skype constitutes actual parenting. Indeed, the thrust of almost all social science on the subject of parenting post-divorce is toward greater equalization of time and responsibilities between the two parents. – Fathers & Families, posted March 31, 2011 by Robert Franklin, Esq.

These “virtual parenting” court orders are visitation interference by judges. Visitation interference is the first step towards parental alienation. So you say well, there are some good family court judges out there. OK, well, if there are, they need to stand up and stop this. A profession regulates itself and sets it’s own ethical standards. I have said before that a lawyer who knows how to heal an alienated child but refuses to do so because it might mean the closure of the courthouse, is like a doctor who knows how to heal a child with cancer but refuses to do so because it might mean the closure of the hospital. The unfortunate arguments of these judges are injustice on so many levels. Focusing on technology takes away from the educational work judges should be doing to change divorce culture away from conflict and toward basic co-operation. I believe it was Dr. J. Michael Bone, who in one of his books wrote, that parental alienation is always looking for “converts.” It is especially tragic when these new converts are in positions of power and trust.

Le Jour Des Bulles D’Amour – 25 Avril
Ensemble nous pouvons faire une différence
La journée de sensibilisation est mercredi prochain.

Bubbles Of Love Day – April 25
Together We Can Make A Difference
Awareness Day is next Wednesday!







Music Therapy

L’incroyable effet de la musicothérapie

La musique peut vous faire chanter, il peut vous faire danser, parfois, il peut même aider les gens qui ont oublié la plupart des régions de leur vie à se souvenir de certaines parties.

Une vidéo extraordinaire fait le tour sur Internet. Il extrait d’un nouveau documentaire appelé “Alive Inside”, qui se traduit “Vivant à l’intérieur.” La musicothérapie peut avoir un effet incroyable sur les personnes âgées. Le célèbre neurologue et écrivain, Oliver Sacks, a dit que parfois la musique aide les gens qui ont perdu leur mémoire à revenir à la vie.

Traitement de la musique est une activité très complexe, où plusieurs régions du cerveau sont activées en même temps, et chacun de ces domaines doit communiquer les uns avec les autres pour nous de donner un sens à la musique. Malgré la complexité, ce processus est très robuste et même des gens qui ont vécu un traumatisme crânien sévère ou d’une démence ont souvent leurs structures musicales toujours intacte. Ces patients n’ont pas perdu leurs souvenirs, ils ont tout simplement perdu l’accès à leurs souvenirs. La musique semble definetly être un élément déclencheur pour la mémoire.

Il ya de très larges applications pour la musicothérapie pour la pédiatrie, des déficiences développementales et les conditions psychiatriques.

Ce fichier audio est le 13 Avril, 2012 diffusion de Radio-Canada. Régler le compteur à 00:20:30 pour entendre le rapport de musicothérapie. Très encourageant. (malheureusement en anglais) La définition de la musicothérapie de l’Université de Paris est ici.

Ci-dessous un lien vers une vidéo en français sur la thérapie par la musique au CHU de Montpellier:

Codiam Multimédia et la musicotherapie au CHU de… by CodiamMultimedia

Les parents et la musique

J’aime la musique. J’ai eu un bon moment enseigner à nos jeunes enfants sur la musique. J’espère qu’ils pourront me souviens de quelques bons moments que nous avons eues ensemble. Lorsque le conflit divorce mène à un parent d’être exclus, tous les souvenirs d’enfance qui auraient existé avec cette autre parent responsable est également interdit de se produire. C’est l’un des pires effets de l’aliénation parentale. Il pourrait être facilement évitée si les enfants ont été autorisés à voir les deux parents attentionnés. Mais nous avons vu que l’aliénation parentale est très difficile à arrêter, et même lorsque les enfants les juges ordonnent de voir les deux parents, un parent peut être incapable de cesser de manipuler et nuire à leurs propres enfants. Si vous avez un style de musique préféré ou de savoir comment jouer ou chanter, le partager avec vos enfants vont l’aider chacun d’entre vous. La musique aide à l’anxiété, la dépression et la douleur. Vous n’avez pas besoin d’avoir des compétences, mais l’enthousiasme est bon. La voix du parent est le meilleur. Essayez de faire une petite collection de musique qui est important pour votre famille.

The Incredible Effect of Music Therapy

Dr. Oliver Sacks, Neurologist and Author

Music can make you sing, it can make you dance, sometimes it can even help people who have forgotten most parts of their lives to remember some parts.

An extraordinary video is making the rounds on the internet. It an excerpt from a new documentary called “Alive Inside.” It’s about the incredible effect music therapy can have on senior citizens. Music can bring people who are out-of-it back into it, according to the famous neurologist and writer, Oliver Sacks.

Processing music is a very complex activity where several areas of the brain are activated at the same time, and each of these areas must communicate with each other for us to make sense of the music. Despite the complexity, this process is very robust and even people who have experienced severe brain injury or dementia often have their music structures still intact. These patients haven’t lost their memories, they have just lost access to their memories. Music definetly seems to be a trigger for memory. The attached audio file is the April 13, 2012 Early Edition of CBC Radio. Set the counter to 0:20:30 to hear the encouraging music therapy report.

There are very broad applications for music therapy for pediatrics, developmental disabilities, and psychiatric conditions. But as parents, we don’t call it therapy, we just call it fun.

Parents and Music

I like music. I had a good time teaching our young children about music. I hope they can remember some of the good times we had together. When divorce conflict leads to a parent being excluded, all childhood memories that would have existed with this other responsible parent are also prevented from happening. This is one of the worst effects of parental alienation. It could be easily prevented if children were allowed to see both caring parents. But we have seen that parental alienation is very tough to stop, and even when judges order children to see both parents, one parent may be unable to stop manipulating and hurting their own children. If you have a favorite music style or know how to play or sing, sharing it with your children will help all of you. Music helps with anxiety, depression, and pain. You don’t need skill, only enthusiasm. A parent’s voice is the best one. Try to make a small collection of music that is significant to your family.

A new type of bear for Abbotsford: Poa and De De live in Spain.

Le Jour Des Bulles D’Amour – 25 Avril
Ensemble nous pouvons faire une différence
Seuls les 10 jours jusqu’à la journée de sensibilisation

Bubbles Of Love Day – April 25
Together We Can Make A Difference
Only 10 Days Left To Awareness Day







Le parti mondial pour les enfants/The Global Party For Children

Hujambo, Hujambo kwa marafiki zetu wote

Hello, Hello wetu marafiki wote katika Kenya kutoka Abbotsford, British Columbia, Canada. Kujiunga nasi kwa ajili ya tamasha la kimataifa kwa ajili ya watoto. Aprili 25 kujaribu kutafuta baadhi ya njia ya kufanya Bubbles. Kutafuna Bubbles fizi na pigo au Bubbles sabuni. Watoto ni muhimu sote katika Afrika, Ulaya, Russia, China, Amerika. Kuongezeka kwa idadi ya watoto wamejeruhiwa na kutengwa wazazi na matatizo ya talaka. Watoto wanahitaji kuona baba na mama, hata baada ya talaka. Fikiria juu ya jinsi ya kuwasaidia watoto.

Bonjour, Bonjour à nos amis

Rejoignez-nous pour un parti mondial pour les enfants. Le 25 Avril essayer de trouver un moyen de faire des bulles. Mâchez bubblegum ou faire des bulles de savon. Les enfants sont importants pour nous tous en Europe, en Afrique, en Russie, en Chine et dans les Amériques. Un nombre croissant d’enfants sont blessés chaque année par l’aliénation parentale et les conflits de divorce. Les enfants ont besoin de voir leurs mères et les pères, même après qu’ils sont divorcés. Bulles montent vers les hauteurs, tout comme l’amour nous élève tous vers le haut. Les bulles peuvent pas être contenues comme l’amour d’un enfant ne peut être maîtrisé. Arrêtez ce que vous faites pendant dix minutes et pensez à comment vous pouvez aider les enfants et souffler quelques bulles.

Nous avons des amis en Côte d’Ivoire, au Togo, et au Rwanda. Nous n’avons pas d’amis au Kenya. Notre ami Daniel est né au Kenya. Il m’a dit que si je dis Hujambo Hujambo, je vais faire des amis au Kenya. Alors je dis Hujambo. Quand vous dites qu’il souhaite, ça sonne un peu comme Jamba.


Je tiens à dire merci à tous ceux qui ont contribué à nous attirer ces affiches: à notre fils et ses Photoshop / Inkscape amis, à nos neveux à l’Université de Guelph, et à tous nos amis à Abbotsford Community Services et de l’Université du Fraser vallée. Nous avons tiré une version allemande d’aujourd’hui, mais nous avons encore besoin d’aide pour la version en punjabi. Si j’ai fait des erreurs faites le moi savoir à, y compris les corrections que vous souhaitez, et nous allons éditer les affiches.

Un merci tout spécial à Jill Egizii et tous les bénévoles qui travaillent dur à l’Organisation de sensibilisation d’Aliénation Parentale (PAAO), qui nous a donné toutes les idées originales et des échantillons, et les annonces de service public sur Radio Abbotsford 107.1 FM et sur Radio CIVL 101.7 FM.

Hello, Hello to all our friends

Join us for a global party for the children. On April 25 try to find some way to blow bubbles. Chew bubblegum or make soap bubbles. Children are important to all of us in Europe, in Africa, in Russia, in China and in the Americas. A growing number of children are hurt each year by parental alienation and divorce conflict. Children need to see their mothers and fathers, even after they are divorced. Bubbles rise up to the heights, just like love lifts us all up. Bubbles cannot be contained just like a child’s love cannot be contained. Stop what you are doing for ten minutes and think about how you can help the children and blow some bubbles.

We have friends in the Ivory Coast, in Togo, and in Rwanda. We don’t have any friends in Kenya. Our friend Daniel was born in Kenya. He told me if I say Hujambo Hujambo, I will get friends in Kenya. So I say Hujambo. When you say it, it sounds a little like jamba.

Thank you

I want to say thank you to everyone who has helped us draw these posters: to our son and his Photoshop/Inkscape friends, to our nephews at the University of Guelph, and to all our friends at Abbotsford Community Services and the University of the Fraser Valley. We drew a German version to-day, but we still need help with the Punjabi version. If I have made any mistakes just let me know at, including the corrections you want, and we will edit the posters.

A special thank you to Jill Egizii and all the hard working volunteers at the Parental Alienation Awareness Organization(PAAO), who gave us all the original ideas and samples, and the public service announcements on Country 107.1 FM and on CIVL Radio.

Le Jour Des Bulles D’Amour – 25 Avril
Ensemble nous pouvons faire une différence
Seuls les 14 jours jusqu’à la journée de sensibilisation

Bubbles Of Love Day – April 25
Together We Can Make A Difference
Only 14 Days Left To Awareness Day







Équilibre travail-vie personnelle***Work/Life Balance

Les familles canadiennes se démènent

pour concilier travail et vie familiale.

En 2001, la Cour de la famille suprême de la Colombie-Britannique a déclaré les infirmières et les infirmiers étaient les pires parents au Canada parce qu’ils étaient toujours fatigué et jamais à la maison. En 2006, ce qui a conduit à un projet pilote par le gouvernement de la Colombie-Britannique pour créer “les horaires de travail sensible” pour les infirmières.

Les infirmières et les infirmiers de la Colombie-Britannique sont parents qui sont fortes, saines et prospères, bienveillantes et responsables, avec une formation en pédiatrie de base, et nos enfants ont désespérément besoin d’eux, sans parler de nos aînés.

Les dernières nouvelles, c’est que toute cette désolation tribunal des familles a conduit à une prévisible dévastation de l’économie canadienne. La Chambre de commerce de Surrey est la recherche d’affaires moyens peuvent aider les familles. Lorsque les pionniers canadiens ont construit une grange, ils ont toujours envoyé des hommes célibataires pour construire le toit, parce que les hommes de la famille étaient trop importants pour nous tous afin de leur permettre tomber.

Canadian Families Struggle To Balance

Work With Life.

In 2001, the Supreme Family Court of British Columbia declared registered nurses were the worst parents in Canada because they were always tired and never home. In 2006, this led to a pilot project by the government of British Columbia to create “Responsive Shift Scheduling” for nurses.

British Columbia nurses are strong, healthy, successful, caring, responsible, available parents, with basic pediatric training, and our children desperately need them, not to mention our seniors.

The latest news is that all this court devastation of families has predictably led to a devastation of the Canadian economy. The Surrey Chamber of Commerce is researching ways business can support families. When Canadian pioneers built a barn, they always sent the single men up to build the roof, because family men were too important to all of us to allow them fall.

Les évaluations des parents médico-légale

Comparer l’article ci-dessus à propos sains, responsables de jeunes parents qui s’occupent de leurs familles à l’article suivant sur la maladie mentale et l’abus de l’aliénation parentale, qui doit cesser.

Jill Egizii et le juge Michele Lowrance interrogé le médecin Mark Moss, à la radio blogtalk cette semaine. M. Moss a parlé des évaluations médico-légales, y compris détecteurs de mensonges. Le MMPI est l’un des plus fréquemment utilisés des tests de personnalité dans la santé mentale . Pour dire que le Dr Moss a donné une causerie clincial sur les différents types de tests médicaux, ne parvient pas à décrire le stress et l’anxiété des parents et des enfants pris dans ces procédures psychiatriques ou psychologiques juridiques. Je l’ai trouvé intéressant d’entendre les noms des derniers essais, mais quand des tests coûteux et de l’extrême sont nécessaires pour maintenir la sécurité des enfants, les circonstances sont déjà désastreuse.

Medical-Legal Parent Evaluations To

Fight Parental Alienation

Compare the above article about healthy, responsible parents, caring for their families to the next article about mental illness and the abuse of parental alienation, which needs to stop.

Jill Egizii and Judge Michele Lowrance interviewed Dr. Mark Moss, on blogtalk radio this week. Dr. Moss talked about medical-legal evaluations, including lie detectors. The Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory (MMPI) is one of the most frequently used personality tests in mental health. To say that Dr. Moss gave a clincial chat about different types of medical test, fails to describe the stress and anxiety of parents and children caught up in these psychiatric or psychological legal proceedings. I found it interesting to hear the names of the latest tests, but when expensive and extreme tests are needed to keep children safe, the circumstances are already dire.

Le Jour Des Bulles D’Amour – 25 Avril
Ensemble nous pouvons faire une différence
Seuls les 19 jours jusqu’à la journée de sensibilisation

Bubbles Of Love Day – April 25
Together We Can Make A Difference
Only 19 Days Left To Awareness Day







Canada’s National Motto: A Mari Usque Ad Mare!!!

February 27, 2012 Leave a comment

Admaris usque admare !!!

From Sea To Shining Sea

I am grateful to my friend and poet, Jean-Paul for his help teaching me about the Franchophonie – the french-speaking countries. A word of thanks also to Louise Bilodeau, President of L’action des Nouvelles Conjointes/Nouveaux Conjoints du Québec (ANCQ) or, in English, The Action of New Spouses of Quebec. This association intends to help pairs of new spouses whose new union is suffering from the conflict and inequities of the judicial system, or the unwillingness or harassment of former spouses, to allow …parent-child relationships and these new families to exist. In fact, they will help anyone devastated by Canadian divorce, even singles who have been unable to rebuild their lives.

Mme Bilodeau likes the idea of the Bubbles of Love Day.  Lise asks that we join together from coast to coast across Canada to take ten minutes to blow soap bubbles with the kids. She calls it a fair, simple, and wonderful gesture to support alienated families and protect our children.

You can view Mme Bilodeau’s letter roughly translated into English here.

D’un ocean à l’autre du Canada

C’était un grand honneur de parler avec la président de l’action des nouvelles conjointes/nouveaux conjoints du Québec. Je regrette beaucoup que mon français n’est pas mieux, mais j’espère qu’ il est de mieux en mieux. Il a également été un honneur de recevoir cette lettre d’encouragement de quelqu’un qui a travaillé dur pour aider nos enfants et nos familles.

Les enfants aiment les bulles de savon. Ils sont amusants! La président aime l’idée des bulles d’amour. Elle estime qu’il est juste, simple et merveilleux ce geste des Bulles d’Amour. Elle dit, laissez-nous la main d’un océan à l’autre du Canada et de prouver que nous aimons nos enfants, la distribution de toutes ses informations. Pour voir le reste de l’information, cliquez ici.

Another Equal Shared Parenting Bill Passes in Carolina

Shared parenting bills always die in the legislatures. They have strong opponents. This  news article is exciting because another Shared Parenting bill in South Carolina has something no other bill has ever had: the governor’s support. In Canada we put the word Equal before our Shared Parenting bills (ESP), because we have no discrimination in family court.

The Fathers Push For Shared Custody Changes video interviews South Carolina dad, Joe Carter, about his new children’s website called, South Carolina Coalition 4 Parents and Children.

The Fathers Fight For Shared Parenting video interviews South Carolina dad, Peter Kucera, about the broken court system.

Rep Wants State of Pennsylvania Alienation Aware

The City of Abbotsford, British Columbia had a population of 124,000 in 2006. The United States Census Bureau estimates that the population of Pennsylvania was 12,742,886 on July 1, 2011. Canada’s population was 33,369,000 last year. I want to start by making the City of Abbotsford aware, then I hope I can help Lise Bilodeau make Canada aware from sea to sea to sea.

The Pennsylvania State Representative, Thomas Murt is trying to get this April designated “Parental Alienation Awareness Month” by the state.  I say “More power to him.”  Read about it here and here. (Hatboro-Horsham Patch, 2/15/12).

Seuls les 58 jours jusqu’à les Bulles D’Amour

Trouvez vos députés ici et laissez-leur savoir que vous voulez faire du Québec une province qui est conscient de l’aliénation parentale.

Only 58 Days Till Bubbles Of Love Day

Find your British Columbia MLAs here and let them know you want to make BC a parental alienation aware province.

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