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Alienation Cases Reviewed

Canada’s Judges On Alienation

The Honourable Justice Brownstone of Toronto on Parental Alienation


“In my view, the term ‘parental alienation’ incorrectly identifies the target parent as the victim.

“The true victims are the children, who are innocent in parental break-ups. Every child has a right to enjoy a loving relationship with both parents. Since it is the child’s right that is being violated by a parent’s alienating behaviour, it is the child who is being alienated from the other parent.”

The first parental alienation case in Canada happened in 2008. I have no legal training so this list of quotes from Canadian judges may not be landmark cases, but they certainly show Judges are at least thinking about parental alienation. I have tried to pick one quote for each of the six years since the first case.

Most target parents feel exhausted and beaten. But in these cases parenting time with the alienating parent was limited at least during the reunification period, and sometimes it was almost unbelievable how quickly an alienated child was able to begin to relate positively to the rejected parent.

The Honourable Madame Justice Loo of Vancouver in 2014 wrote,

The over-arching recommendation is that all efforts are made to reunite [K.] and [N.] with their father. Given the length of time the alienation has been occurring and the level of severity, the writer’s opinion is that very strong measures will need to be put in place in order to give the children the best chance possible to have their father in their life once more.

There is a considerable amount of literature about alienation and treatment options. Treatment options can range from least to most intrusive, each of which has its pros and cons. Each family situation has to be assessed when considering what option might be most effective. ~ in J.C.W. v. J.K.R.W., 2014 Supreme Court of British Columbia at paragraph 36

The Honourable Judge Gomery of Montreal stated,


“Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child. It has to be taught.

A parent who would teach a child to hate the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child.”

L’Honorable juge Linda Despôts de Salaberry-de-Valleyfield dit

La Directrice demande au Tribunal de déclarer compromis la sécurité et le développement de l’enfant X, née le […] 2004, en raison de son exposition à de mauvais traitements psychologiques, notamment par l’aliénation parentale que la mère utilise à l’encontre du père.

Pour mettre fin à la situation de compromission, la Directrice recommande que l’enfant soit confiée à son père, qu’elle ait des contacts réguliers avec sa mère, qu’aide, conseil et assistance soient apportés à la famille pour une année et que l’enfant puisse bénéficier d’une thérapie. ~ Protection de la jeunesse (A. contre B.), 2009 Cour du Québec au paragraphe 2

The Honourable Justice Mesbur of Toronto in the S.G.B. case wrote,


Dr. Fidler also addressed the issue of the effectiveness of counselling in cases of irrational alienation. She said, “We know from our failures, so many failures, it is just almost unbelievable to see how quickly an alienated child before your eyes can, once they’re out of the orbit of the favoured parent, can begin to relate positively to the rejected parent and to give and receive love.” ~ S.G.B. v. S.J.L., 2010 Ontario Superior Court at paragraph 43.


When our divorce was decreed in 2001 the definition of a spouse was “Any man or woman married to each other.” Then in 2004 the Honourable Justice Mesbur was asked to divorce two women married to each other. Her Honourable Ladyship realized she could not divorce this couple because of the definition of the word spouse in our Divorce Act, so she declared the definition of spouse to be “unconstitutional, inoperative, and of no force and effect.” Today the definition of spouse is “Either of two persons who are married to each other.”

Less than 24 hours after the couple’s divorce petition was publicized, the Canadian Justice Department was forced to point out that excluding gays and lesbians from the definition of “spouse” in the Divorce Act would prohibit them from divorcing. Earlier, it had told the judge to delay the case until after the Supreme Court had ruled on the constitutionality of same-sex “marriage”, but Ruth Mesbur ignored that advice.

The Globe and Mail hailed same-sex divorce as “a sign of progress” (editorial, Sep. 17, 04), and Ann Perry of the Toronto Star’s editorial board called the ruling “courageous” and “correct” and thought that once again the court was “dragging” “Canada out of “the dark ages (Star, Sept. 18, 04).

The Honourable John Morden Call to the Bar Address, February 2001,


“…Civility is not just a nice, desirable adornment, to accompany the way lawyers conduct themselves, but, is a duty which is integral to the way lawyers are to do their work.

In the field of litigation, civility is the glue that holds the adversary system together, that keeps it from imploding.”

The Honourable Mr. Justice M.D. Acton of Saskatoon in 2008 wrote

Parental alienation occurs when one parent convinces the children that the other parent is not trustworthy, loveable or caring – in short, not a good parent. As indicated in the Children’s Voices Report ordered by Mr. Justice Maher December 14, 2006 and filed with the Court on April 16, 2007, such manipulation of the children, with the resulting alienation, carries very high risks. The Children’s Voices Report states: “It can seriously distort a child’s developing personality and subsequent life adjustment. The sooner it is identified and appropriate interventions are implemented, the better the child’s chances of avoiding its worst long-term effects.” ~ B.S.P. v. D.G.P., 2008 Queen’s Bench For Saskatchewan at paragraph 12.

The Honourable Mr. Justice Conlan of Owen Sound Notable Quotes


“This is yet another instance where a party has determined that she will decide whether she will obey a (Parenting Time) Court Order or not. L.C. must be held accountable for that…

Those who deliberately and repeatedly flout Court Orders regarding custody and access (now called parenting time in British Columbia) shall be held to account for their contempt. And by “account”, I am not referring to a shake of the finger and a gentle reminder that an Order is an Order is an Order…

L.C. admitted in her testimony that the telephone access did not occur as ordered. Her excuse that she left it up to the very young child to determine whether she wanted to contact her father is no excuse at all – it is absurd.” ~ R.G. v. L.G., 2013 in Ontario Superior Court at paragraph 58

The Honourable Justice Roy of Montreal in 2011 wrote

However, the Tribunal’s view, if we can not speak formally of parental alienation, remains that the father nevertheless exhibits many behaviors that are similar (to parental alienation) and several disturbing reactions described in this evidence are observed in the Child X.

Thus Child X seeks to denigrate his mother to Madame Evans, and complains of an unjustified fear of his mother, asking not to see her.

In addition, he uses expressions which are not usually found in the vocabulary of a child of his age, such as “contract” (in reference to court orders), and “gather the evidence.”

It must also be recognized that gathering evidence against an alienating parent is hard to do. It is practiced privately, insidiously and in the absence of witnesses. The parent who is the victim is usually reduced to indirect evidence, based on the words and behavior of a young child… His bad influence on his child should be limited and custody (parenting time) arrangements must be made carefully. Family Law Decision/Droit de la famille #111527, 2011 in Quebec Superior Court at paragraph 99

The Honourable Mr. Justice Peacock of Montreal in 2012 wrote

[56] All children in Quebec have a quasi-constitutional right to the protection and security of both of their parents. This paragraph refers to the Quebec Charter of Human Rights and Freedoms, article 39: Every child has a right to the protection, security and attention that his parents or the persons acting in their stead are capable of providing.

[57] The uncontradicted evidence of Ms. Pérusse is that if the Court does not do something, there is a high probability that the Father may effectively lose contact with both of his children. This common result of parental alienation is also underscored by Dr. Gardner.

[58] It is not in X and Y’s best interest that this happen. All members of this family need to work together to restore the balance and mutual respect that permitted the equal shared custody to work previously.

[59] The Father has made certain parenting errors in the past. He has been made aware of these errors through previous court appearances. Both he and Ms. L. have paid a price i.e. not being together during certain times of custody. The Father is a sensitive individual who wants the best for his children: he has recognized these errors and needs to be given the opportunity to learn and move forward with his new knowledge of parenting.

[60] The Mother needs to recognize that she is part of the problem and must be part of the solution. She is capable of taking on important responsibility at work: at home, she needs to take on the responsibility that the children will benefit from the Father’s attention now and in the future. She must take ownership of her own responsibility to preserve and promote relationships between the daughters and both parents: not be a constant detractor.

[69] Dr. Gardner warns courts not to be naïve as to how much influence they can have in parental alienation cases. Family Law Decision/Droit de la famille #122229, 2012 in Quebec Superior Court at paragraph 69

Learning About Digital Art

I found that I could add Korean text to documents if I use the Malgun Gothic font. I created the Korean text in Google Translate and pasted it onto our Bubbles of Love poster. Just a rough draft, but fun!


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La fête des bulles d’amour – le 25 avril, 2014
Ensemble, nous sommes capables de beaucoup.
Il n’y a que 15 jours avant la journée de sensibilisation!

Bubbles Of Love Day – April 25, 2014
Together We Can Make A Difference
Only 15 days till Awareness Day!


C-B réforme de la justice / B.C. Justice Reform

All those involved in the justice system are under increasing pressure to meet the expectations, demands and needs of a changing society. Our criminal justice system includes many different organisations and professions serving the public, such as government, lawyers, police, prosecutors, justice advocates, corrections officers, judges, victim service workers, mediators and many others. Many of these must have a guarantee of independence to ensure public confidence in the rule of law.

“La loi est l’ensemble des conditions qui permetliberté la de chacun à accueillir la liberté de tous”

“Law is the set of conditions that allows the freedom of each to accommodate everyone’s freedom” ~ Immanuel Kant 1724 – 1804.

• L’état de droit doit être considéré comme un concept souple. Il ne consiste pas simplement à réformer les tribunaux, les systèmes de justice pénale ou le droit pénal. Dans beaucoup de pays, les litiges immobiliers, l’état civil, la justice des mineurs, la citoyenneté, l’état d’apatridie, la corruption, la réforme de l’administration/fonction publique, ainsi que la démobilisation et le désarmement des combattants constitueront les points prioritaires à l’ordre du jour. ~ HAUT-COMMISSARIAT DES NATIONS UNIES AUX DROITS DE L’HOMME Les instruments de l’état de droit dans les sociétés sortant d’un conflit: Cartographie du secteur de la justice

• The rule of law must be considered as a flexible concept. It is not simply
to reform the courts, the criminal justice system or criminal law. In many
countries, property disputes, marital status, juvenile justice, citizenship, the state statelessness, corruption, reform the administration / public service, and the
demobilization and disarmament of combatants will be the priority items to
the agenda. ~ OFFICE FOR THE UNITED NATIONS HIGH COMMISSIONER FOR HUMAN RIGHTS Rule-of-Law Tools for Post-Conflict States: Mapping the Justice Sector

L’état de droit / The Rule of Law

Voici le deuxième rapport intérimaire de l’Initiative en Colombie-Britannique réforme de la justice. La dernière page du rapport énumère 5 domaines de la réforme de la justice pénale, qui ont tous été au moins mentionné dans ce blog et qui affectent régulièrement les pères et leurs familles. Je suis surpris d’apprendre qu’il ya un tel chevauchement important entre la famille et le droit pénal. Gardez à l’esprit que vous lisez cette liste que la cause habituelle de divorce est une maladie mentale.

  1. La violence domestique
  2. Soutien pour les Premières nations
  3. Infractions liées à la violation des conditions de retour dans la société.
  4. La gestion des cas très grandes
  5. Santé mentale et des toxicomanies

Here is the second interim report from the British Columbia Justice Reform Initiative. The last page of the report lists 5 areas of Criminal Justice Reform, all of which have been at least mentioned in this blog and which routinely affect fathers and families. I never realized family law involved so much criminal law until I saw this list. Keep in mind as you read this list that the usual cause of divorce is mental illness.

  1. Domestic Violence
  2. Support For First Nations
  3. Administration Of Justice Offences
  4. Large Case Management
  5. Mental Health and Addictions

VANCOUVER – A review aimed at confronting B.C.’s overburdened justice system will suggest chopping the number of court appearances before an accused goes to trial among its recommendations. Lawyer Geoffrey Cowper says a speedier flow of justice could be accomplished using technology like video appearances and by implementing deadlines for shorter criminal matters to go before a judge. Cowper was appointed in February to conduct a wholesale review of the provincial justice system as a monumental backlog of cases has been causing judges to toss them out.

La Cour supérieure de justice de l’Ontario contre

l’aliénation parentale

C’est le premier cas juridique canadien où un juge a vraiment fait prendre des mesures contre l’aliénation parentale évidente et grave. Le juge a noté qu’il n’y avait pas l’aide au Canada et a ordonné l’enfant transporté à M. Warshak aux États-Unis. Depuis toujours l’enfant haï sa mère. La mère et l’enfant avait à voler sur des avions distincts. Mais le Dr Warshak guérit l’enfant. (Vous criez, sautez, et de faire des exclamations appropriées ici!) La mère et l’enfant a passé quelques mois seulement ensemble avant le garçon a été à nouveau autorisé à voir son père aliénant. Si vous vous sentez impuissant pour aider votre enfant aliéné, je l’espère une telle histoire d’espoir de la réunification vous donne la force de continuer. Accrochez-vous parce que cela ressemble à des progrès.

Il s’agit du nom de l’affaire: J.K.L. c N.C.S., [2008]. Trois initiales pour chaque parent et deux, LS, pour la première garçon de 13 ans jamais sauvé de l’aliénation parentale au Canada. Toute l’affaire peut être lu dans le magazine MacLean dans le menu déroulant marqué CourtWatch le long du haut de ce blog.

Ontario Court Orders Treatment For PAS

This is the first Canadian legal case where a judge really did take action against obvious and severe parental alienation. The judge noted there was no help in Canada and ordered the child transported to Dr. Warshak in the United States. Since the child still hated his mother. The mother and child had to fly on separate planes. But Dr. Warshak healed the child. (Shout, jump and make appropriate exclamations here!) The mother and child spent some months alone together before the boy was again allowed to see his alienating father. If you feel powerless to help your alienated child, I hope such a hopeful story of reunification gives you strength to carry on. Hang in there because this sounds like progress.

This is the name of the case: J.K.L. v. N.C.S., [2008]. Three initials for each parent and two, L.S., for the first 13 year-old boy ever saved from parental alienation in Canada. The entire case can be read in MacLean’s magazine in the dropdown menu labelled CourtWatch along the top of this blog.

Title IX:la loi de l’égalité des droits

La vidéo ci-dessous met en évidence les 3 millions de filles qui jouent maintenant de sport dans les écoles américaines. Cela est particulièrement poignante, après le 23 Juin rapport blogueur que l’Arabie saoudite n’a pas atheletes femmes olympiques parce qu’il est contre la loi saoudienne pour les femmes de représenter l’Arabie saoudite. En 1965, le taux de l’Arabie saoudite d’alphabétisation des femmes était de 5%. Éducation et sensibilisation ont été les principaux facteurs qui ont conduit à 60% des étudiants dans l’Arabie saoudite et l’Amérique du Nord aujourd’hui d’être une femme. En 1964, le Civil Rights Act a été écrite dans le but de mettre fin à la discrimination fondée sur la religion, la race, la couleur ou l’origine nationale, la loi a également alimenté le mouvement des droits des femmes, qui avait quelque peu ralenti après le suffrage des femmes en 1920. Alors que le titre IX est surtout connu pour son impact sur l’école secondaire et sport collégial, la loi initiale ne fait aucune mention explicite de sport. En 1967, la National Organization for Women (NOW) a persuadé le Président Johnson pour inclure les femmes dans les lois IX Titre de la discrimination fondée sur le sexe. Dans la vidéo ci-dessus, le ministère de la Santé et des Services humains prend de crédit pour la création de cette loi pour encourager les filles à participer à des sports scolaires. Dans les écoles d’Abbotsford, l’un de nos sports les plus populaires est le rugby joué par les filles, et nos filles sont intelligente, forte, rapide et confiant. Nous sommes impatients de les 40 prochaines années, à laisser les petites filles et petits garçons être tout ce qu’ils pouvaient éventuellement espérer être.

Title IX Equality

The above video celebrates the 3 Million girls who now play sports in American schools. This is especially poignant after the June 23 blogger report that Saudia Arabia has no female Olympic atheletes because it is against Saudi law for women to represent Saudia Arabia. In 1965, Saudi Arabia’s female literacy rate was 5%. Education and awareness have been the keys around the world that have led to 60% of college students in both Saudi Arabia and North America now being female. In 1964, the Civil Rights Act was written in order to end discrimination based on religion, race, color, or national origin, the act also energized the women’s rights movement, which had somewhat slowed after women’s suffrage in 1920. While Title IX is best known for its impact on high school and collegiate athletics, the original statute made no explicit mention of sports. In 1967, the National Organization for Women (NOW) persuaded President Johnson to include women in Title IX laws as discrimination based on sex. In the above video, the Department of Health and Human Services takes credit for creating this law to encourage girls to participate in school sports. In Abbotsford, one of our biggest school sports is girl’s rugby, and our girls are smart, strong, fast and confident. We look forward to the next 40 years, to let the little boys and little girls be all they could possibly hope to be.

La discrimination anti-hommes, anti-pères, anti-father

Il ya une intense campagne pour dénoncer la violence domestique passe dans nos médias traditionnels, et il semble que le monde entier déteste les hommes et les pères. Bien que j’aime bien le nom de L’un est un trop grand nombre beaucoup mieux que la loi d’Abbotsford contre la violence domestique qui est appelé tolérance zéro envers les hommes, et tandis qu’il est certainement raisonnable pour les pères de continuer à protéger nos enfants et nos jeunes, je pourrais comprendre si vous vous sentez un peu découragé. Voici trois vidéos pour vous remonter le moral. Langue n’est pas un obstacle à ces vidéos. Vous obtiendrez le message de compassion et d’amour.

There is an intense campaign to denounce domestic violence going on in our mainstream media, and it sounds like the whole world hates men and fathers. While I certainly like the name 1 is 2 Many far better than Abbotsford’s domestic violence law which is called Zero Tolerance Against Men, and while it certainly makes sense for fathers to continue to protect our children and youth, I could understand if you are feeling a little disheartened. Here are three videos to cheer you up. Language is no barrier to these videos. You will get the positive message.

Le Jour Des Bulles D’Amour – 25 Avril, 2013
Ensemble nous pouvons faire une différence
Il n’y a que 304 jours avant la journée de sensibilisation!

Bubbles Of Love Day – April 25, 2013
Together We Can Make A Difference
Only 304 days till Awareness Day!






Le sexe? Oubliez ça!/Forget Gender

D’oublier Sexe

Un écrivain sur facebook, qui s’appelle Linda J. Gottlieb, dit des choses intéressantes aujourd’hui. Elle affirme que les deux mères et les pères sont violents. Les deux mères et les pères apportent des fausses accusations de violence. Les deux mères et les pères aliéner. Les deux mères et les pères apportent des fausses accusations d’aliénation. Elle dit d’oubliez le sexe, d’oubliez des groupes des femmes et d’oubliez des groupes des hommes. Arrêtez la violence familiale, arrêtez d’aliénation parentale, – mettez l’accent sur les enfants et protégez les enfants. Logique, non? Si vous cliquez sur la zone de texte rose vous permettra de relier au sommaire complet M. Kruk dans lequel il affirme que le gouvernement Canadien est en retard sur le monde dans la réforme de la justice familiale.

Forget Gender

Facebook writer, Linda J. Gottlieb, said some interesting things today. She said that both mothers and fathers are violent. Both mothers and fathers bring false accusations of violence. Both mothers and fathers alienate. Both mothers and fathers bring false accusations of alienation. Linda said forget gender, forget women’s groups and forget men’s groups. Stop domestic violence, stop parental alienation, – put the emphasis on children and protect children. Makes sense, right? If you click the pink text box you will link to Professor Kruk’s full summary in which he states the Canadian government lags behind the rest of the world in family justice reform?

Le Jour Des Bulles D’Amour – 25 Avril
Ensemble nous pouvons faire une différence
La journée de sensibilisation est mercredi prochain.

Bubbles Of Love Day – April 25
Together We Can Make A Difference
Awareness Day is next Wednesday!







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